Friday, July 31, 2009

A short research on love and lovers

Hi hi hi..All these days I have been writing only comical things in this blog..Now its time to write about something which is even more funny :D.Yeah its all about that 4 letter word L-O-V-E.This word is the O2(Oxygen) for many subjects,especially CINEMA.It is possible to make a movie without songs,without comedy,without villain,even without heroes,but not without love..Only at rare occassions we can see movies without any love story in it..Anyway the topic is not about cinematic love but about love in real life.We will see some symptoms and effects of love.Match your life with this,if u have any of these symptoms then u r seriously in danger I mean u r in love.

Ok now lets start with the so called LOVE at first sight.Actually I dont have any faith in this theory.I dont know how people fall for a girl/boy on just a glance.May be for cinema artistes it may work out.I have seen guys/girls saying this:Hey she is so cute da,she is awesome da,my heart says something for her da.U know I feel like we have "some poorva jenma bandham"(definitely this guy should have seen some Kathir or Murali movie last night,else he should have drunk heavily).If I ask whats her name and have u ever spoken to her,they will reply no da I dont know her name and I dont know anything abt her,but I have fixed her in my heart.I pity on this fellow,coz she has already fixed someone else :D.
If this love at first sight holds true means then till today I have been in love with atleast some 1000 girls(1000 is too small number I guess,ada SRM college pa naan :D).

Another punch dialogue which we can often hear from people who are madly in love is : LOVE IS BLIND.Yeah its blind only,coz most of the time people fail to see their future because this love has made them blind.

Another kind of love is u know sometimes a guy and girl who may be having a normal relationship with each other for quite some days and that relationship turns into love.This is somewhat acceptable.Because,u know, we may talk with 1000 girls(but I dont thats different :D)but only one girl/boy will impress us and we may feel as if they are ours.We may show too much of care for them alone and we will be ready to do anything for their well being.And we will love spending time with them alone.This happens and this is really love.If any of u have such feelings then confirm that u r in love after reading this post :D.

But whats happening nowadays is something different.People doesnt have gutts to accept their lust.Be it a girl or boy they just want to spend some time and have fun for some days.So what they do?They just make use of the relationship love.But they also will not say that they r in love,instaed they will say "she is my girl friend da","hey he is my boy friend pa".I would say this is utter crap.What is girlfriend?According to me "a girl who is our friend".This is what I mean by girlfriend and the meaning holds true for boyfriend too.But nowadays if we say she is our girlfriend,the society really sees us bit differently.I would say those fellas who just want to have some fun and use this word "GirlFriend or BoyFriend"-u r an idiot.

U ppl dont know the difference between love and friendship.Without knowing this basic difference,I dont think ur relationship will continue for more than an year.The next year u will be with a different girl and she will be with a different guy.But for sure u both will not have enough courage to justify ur action.So kindly dont use girlfriend/boyfriend for ur girl,instead use some other phrases like "She is my aalu da","she is my figure da" and for girls u can also use "aalu" and if u dont like just find another term,I cant help u out :D.

There are also people who find it difficult to find what their relationship is all about.They will be in confusion.They will keep on asking this to themselves,"r v in love?r is this just a friendship?oh..."(mandaya pichikkuvanga :D).For such people I would like to say just this.Instead of getting confused like this,think in this angle.What ur parents will say if u say u r in love?If u r damn sure that they will accept then approach ur partner politely and in a decent manner.Just talk personally,dont use messengers(not yahoo or msn,but dont use ur friends as messengers :D).If he/she too agrees then go ahead convincing parents of both sides.But if ur partner rejects ur proposal dont get dejected.There is always a better option available(unakku aaiyiram ponnu kedakkum machi :D,ipdi than usuppethuvanga :D).

Just kidding,if ur proposal is rejected,then also I would say be calm and explain ur partner that u just expressed ur wish.And ask her/him to continue the relationship as it is at present.And u too start concentrating on other things which u like very much(like music,movies etc..).Normally after a proposal is rejected,people grow a long beard and catch a female dog and sit near some tree.Then they will be singing "ulage maayam vaazhve maayam" with some local drink in a glass bottle.(Yov ithellam old style,dont insult us by following the same,instead catch a female elephant and tie it,then u will feel the real PAIN of LOVE :D).Boys will do this,but girls are always different :).They cant grow beard and all :D.So they will marry whichever person their parents show and will keep her lover's name to her child.(But if that child happens to be a girl,am sorry boys,u will lose this small happiness too :D).

There are some extreme cases where both boy and girl will be in love but will not be in a position to marry due to family circumstances.I really feel sorry for them.The parents may not accept their love stating caste or religion(love will not see whether the gal is hindu or muslim or christian or anyother etc..).In such cases if both of ur parents r not accepting means things are too difficult for u.But if u r in such a situation and also in a very deep love,then I would say both of u should try to achieve a great position in the society and try to earn as much money and good name and fame in society as possible,before u tell ur opinion to ur parents(but only thru legal means :P)..Then discuss with ur parents,50% will agree and 50% still will not.But u should patiently wait until u achieve ur goal :D.For those whose parents do not agree am sorry,I dont have a conclusion :(.

Recently in a tv show I saw a girl saying that she is unable to forget her lover even after marriage and she has 2 kids too :x.I would say it is rubbish.Try to make ur lover as ur husband(or wife) else love ur husband(or wife) truely.Ofcourse ur problem is understandable,for that reason dont stoop down to this level saying u r still in love with ur "EX"Lover.So what u will do if he says he is also in love with u?Will u once again marry him?Dont be a fool,be practical.

The thing is just ask this question to urself before getting deep into ur love :"Will our love work out practically?"If u ask this question in the beginning stage itself,then I assure u no love will end in suicide,we will also not see any devadases and losers.Be practical always,u can avoid most of the problems :)

After all love is just a part of life and not heart of life(aama da indha dialogue cinema la irunthu than sutten :D).All I can say be bold and flexible and be ready to accept the consequences of ur decisions with respect to love.There is life beyond love(now dont say that this fellow is not in love and he is jealous of those in love and thats y he is scribbling some crap here :D).I am not jealous and all,but whatever I have written are facts.

Just see what this quote about love says:

Love is so beautiful,wonderful,amazing.Its the best thing in the world,until it happens to ur daughter :D

I dont have anything to do with that quote,it was said by someone else.

And this is a long post and go thru this topic if u really want to kill some "time" and if u r really interested in the topic :D.Sorry for such a long post..;)


Mohan said...

machi.dis z one of ur better posts,with more reality .....aana ni deeppaa engayoo adipata madri eruku??

Harish.M said...


Macha not at all da..its all just my research work :D

K@RTHIKEY@N said...
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K@RTHIKEY@N said...

Hey good one da machi.My life is related to one of your paras and i liked the way you described that. kudos harish....

Vishnu said...

yeah...u r correct da...The kind of rubbishes that some fools do in public places in the name of love is disgusting...Ivannga imsa thanga mudiyala da...

karthiktheleo said...

cool post da:)But just one point reg tht tv show woman.I would suggest if tht woman is not able to forget her love then she shouldnt marry (spoil)another person.Better be single in that case for its not just ur life .Some other X is also involved.(i pity him really)

Harish.M said...

@Vishnu-Lol...What to do,the world is like this :D


I guess the marriage was due to circumstances.. I got irritated to see that lady speaking that way..Man after all parents decide the future of girls in India..and moreover the point to be noted there is that the guy she was mentioning was not interested on her and he has cheated her..Its sheer nonsense to be like that and especially to tell those things in public..


Which paragraph :P

karthiktheleo said...

hmmm yea. but i still don accept spoilin person s life watever it is.


Gud one Harish.Almost similar to my post.but i guess u have dealt it in detail.May be coz u r still in college u r able to bring it up in detail.

Harish.M said...

@DRAVIDIAN-Thanks for ur comments :-),but I have just now completed my college..Anyway nice to see ur comments :)

Anonymous said...

Is love true? Or its kinda wish a person has to be with someone all the time? If its just a wish, then how could "forgetting you is impossible" statement work? Can a person who loves someone, love another the same way?

Harish.M said...

@Anonymous - you could have mentioned your name my friend..

anyway,true love exists in this is just not the wish of being with the so and so person,all the time..its something happens for no reason..

It's a feeling,which we will realize when we miss the person whom we really consider as our is something beyond physical attraction :-)

If its true love,then forgetting loved one is highly impossible :-)

//Can a person who loves someone, love another the same way?

It depends on the situation is my honest answer :-)

Thanks for commenting my friend and pls mention your name next time :-)